I don’t know about you but the older I get the more I love autumn. Bright sunny days, the changing colour of the trees, the opportunity to unpack my boots and don snuggly knitwear, and most of all, the start of autumn feels like a chance to reboot, refocus and make the most of the rest of the year. With that in mind, I thought I’d share some strategies (that I love and live by) and thought you might appreciate too (to help make YOU your best self). Because at the end of the day, we do our best job when we feel our best selves.
You may feel exhausted and worn out at this time of year – you’ve probably put in a LOT of hours over the summer season, burning the midnight oil to keep your wedding clients happy and delivering their beautiful weddings. Now is the time to take stock. Look at what you’ve achieved objectively – block some time out of your diary either alone or with your team to look at what you’ve achieved (with room for improvement of course) and refer this back to your goals and plans at the start of the year to see where you’ve come. We often forget to do this and keep ploughing on to the next thing but it’s so important to look at progress over time as little consistent actions do effect change, but sometimes if we don’t stop to look, we miss it and feel like we haven’t evolved at all.
Take a Break
It’s definitely the time to block out some time for replenishing and recharging. Whilst there are a million things to do (and a busy autumn calendar to manage), you will feel the benefit of taking a short break. Marvellous if you can take a holiday or break, but even a day or two completely away from work (I highly recommend with a complete digital detox) then this can do the world of good and leave you with renewed passion when you return. For me, a trip to the spa works wonders. I book myself in for some ALONE time (going to the spa with somebody else totally defeats the object for me) and literally I let my mind wander on this day as I spoil myself with some spa treatments and pamper time. It’s amazing how many fresh ideas come to me when I’m switched off and not forcing them.
Make the most of the morning
I have never been a morning person until a year ago, when I started reading a lot about early morning routines and the benefits of having one and I’m now a convert. My routine in the morning involves a combination of meditation, journaling, reading and walking (and there is a school run thrown in there too!). It might be something else for you (I’ve never been a gym person but fantastic if you are) but the morning is such a great time for setting your intentions for the day, feeding your mind, getting your body working and blood pumping and having some peace and quiet. Go on, try it, set your alarm for 30 minutes early and give yourself some “me time” before the day really gets going.
Learn something new
I’m a big believer that we’re all here to learn constantly and the day you stop learning, it’s all over! With that in mind, I like to try different ways of tapping into knowledge.
If you’re a reader but struggle with the time needed, I highly recommend Audible for reading on the go. I listen to a couple of books a month now as I read whilst I make long drives (journeys to some of your lovely rural venues can take me several hours), or when I’m walking. You might know that I read a LOT of business and mindset books, I’ve listed some of my absolute favourites below if you’d like to check them out.
When it comes to learning it might be something specific that will help you with your wedding venue role – perhaps a marketing technique you want to explore, perhaps a new service to add to your offering – don’t be afraid to go for it and to ask for help where you need it. The wider wedding industry is super collaborative and there is always someone with the knowledge you need who can either do it for you to get you to the next step, teach you, train you or give you pointers in the right direction. I have an amazing support team at Kelly Chandler Consulting including a business coach, virtual assistant, web developer, designer, social media manager and more who I’m constantly learning from to get to what I want to achieve next.
Gather your Tribe
TEAM – Together Everyone Achieves More – we’ve all heard this one but it’s so true. It is so important to gather YOUR tribe and support network around you both personally and in business. Friends and family are great but sometimes you need a tribe who can give support, encouragement and a friendly ear because they just “get it”, probably because they are doing the same thing and encountering the same challenges. It’s great when you can celebrate your successes with each other and support each other when things aren’t so rosy. The good news is that it’s easier and easier to feel connected to your tribe these days with social media being what it is. Consider joining up some Facebook groups relevant to your interests and areas and forge some professional friendships there. I am part of some amazing entrepreneur groups that I gain so much from.
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If you’d like to be part of a thriving group of brilliant wedding venue teams, then you would be very welcome to join my private Facebook group, ‘Wedding Spaces Going Places’, – idea sharing, support, collaboration and mini-trainings are all there, I’d love to see you there!
Whatever your autumn plans, I wish you lots of success with them. Now I’m off in search of autumn leaves and a mug of hot chocolate!
Busy – How to Thrive in a World of Too Much by Tony Crabbe
A friend (probably sick of me quoting “I’m busy”) recommended this book and I have since powered-through it. It’s written from a business psychologist’s perspective and is a brilliant (and often amusing) guide on how to reframe busy lives with discussion on mastery, focus, engagement & momentum. What I like is it’s not a time management book (I’ve read plenty of those) but it really got me thinking about where and how I actually spend my time and I’ve now (almost) removed the word ‘busy’ from my vocabulary.
What I Know For Sure by Oprah Winfrey
This is a book that I revisit often and dip into for a quick “Oprah power session”. Based on her monthly O – The Oprah Magazine column which she’s written for 14 years, this book is choc-a-block full of life lessons from Oprah’s perspective. It covers joy, resilience, connection, gratitude, possibility, awe, clarity and power. They are fascinating short essays into the life of this incredible woman yet with very much a focus on making us, the reader, the best version of our selves.
The 5 Second Rule – Transform Your Life, Work & Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins
If nothing else, this book has stopped me hitting the snooze button for the first time in my 43 years. Yes, I adore my sleep, but this book put its case so compellingly that it sends me into action when that alarm goes off – seriously – read it if that’s you. Above and beyond that specific example, this is a book about showing us how to become more confident, break the habit of procrastination, stop worrying, share more ideas and frankly just “do it” using the 5-second countdown. It sounds simple but it’s a brilliant read enriched with science, facts and riveting stories from history, art and business.
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